ATaqwa wa husnul Quluq

Posted: August 25, 2009 in Manners


After I got done listening to the lecture below, I thought about the saying I once heard, “Verily we are more in need of a little bit of good manners then we are to a lot of knowledge” Subhana’Allah, how important this aspect of our lives is. I ask Allah azza wa jala to make us of the likes of those who possess great manners and who display often.


Got Manners? – Kamal El Mekki – Part 1/6 to 3/6

In order for there to be mercy there has to be good aqlaaq.
The prophet sal allahu sallam sent as a mercy to mankind- aqlaaq.
The Prophet sal allahu sallam. “verily I was sent to perfect the most noblest of characters”

Omar r.a. would say I would rather sit with a well-mannered non-muslim then an ill-mannered muslim.

No one wants to sit with a ill mannered person, you just don’t want to spend time with that person.

Best of companions

Mother of Imam Malik, when she sent them to study with Rabi3 learn from his athaab/manners before you learn from His knowledge.

Some people learn a bit of knowledge, they go home, and go to people and just make them feel uncomfortable and miserable, because they are so rude.

That whole knowledge will not avail you, you can’t pass it onto people because you are so rude.

One of the students of Imam Malik stayed with him for 20 years, the student was brilliant and he captured all the knowledge in the first year, he stayed for 19 years..the rest of the 19 years he was learning from his manners, because he was an ocean of knowledge.

A Taqwa wa husnul Quluq; Taqwa (God conscious) and good manners- Jannah. Two top that lead to Jannah. Two top that lead to hell-fire -the mouth and private area.

The Prophet sal allahu sallam asked do you know who is the muflis-the bankrupt person? The companions replied it’s the one who has no money etc. The prophet sal allahu sallam it’s the one who comes on the day of judgment with a lot of good deeds but he has insulted this person, hit that person, and took the wealth of that person…they start to take from his good deeds. You end up paying others back.

When you do something against Allah He may forgive you, expiate for you in this life, but if you do something against someone they need to forgive you, or you need to seek forgiveness before you passed away, or they’ll take from your good deeds! Soon he’ll take all his good deeds, once that runs out and the person still owes, then you’ll take upon their bad deeds and then he’ll end up in the hell-fire.

The person goes through all these trails- death, trials of the grave, resurrection, standing in front of Allah azza wa jala, the siraat, ….and then he is placed into the hell-fire…all because of why? Bad aqlaaq, bad manners.
Aqlaaqh isn’t just an extra thing you add, its very very important.

Yahya ibn Muad use to say good deeds don’t compensate for bad manners, while good manners may compensate for bad deeds.

Heaviest on your scale are your good manners.

Good manners- like/same status achieved by the one who fasts/and establishes salaah.

The one near to the Prophet sal allahu sallam- ones described are…”the best of you are the ones best to your families “ all related to aqlaaq

The hadeeth of the guy staying over at the guys house because..The prophet sal allahu sallam said this person is of the people of paradise. He looked to see of the guy prayed extra, fasted, and the point was that he clears his heart-no issues, no problems with anyone -he gives everyone their rights.

This is an easy thing, before we go to bed, lets clear our hearts. Think about everyone/anyone that you are upset with and just forgive that person. The reward is so great and the deed is so simple.

In various parts of the Quran, Allah woulds say ‘Wa3foo wasfahoo‘-when you pardon someone you don’t retaliate. Wa3foo-is pardon,-you might forgive but bad feelings may remain, wasfaoo is deeper than pardon-safh is when you turn to the other side, and the issue doesn’t manner to you anymore and you completely forget about it. Higher level than the two, is when you pardon, turn the other side, and do you good to that person (Wallahu Yuhibul Muhsineen).

Are you born with good aqlaaq or can you attain good aqlaaq? Sometimes inherited- environment, but you can also acquire it. So many you try to advice them about their aqlaaq and they right it off as the way they are, that they don’t want to improve or make better.

Or someone people will say “I can say mean things to you at a meeting or something, and afterward we are friends again and we can eat out“. We have to uphold the same manners wherever we are, and whatever we are doing.

1.) We need to uphold the same manners all over.
2.) We need to be realistic and evaluate our manners wherever we are.


Lecture: [Youtube=]

Parts 4, 5, 6 to be continued.

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