Bayyinah Course (Day 5-d4)

Posted: December 24, 2008 in Ahh moments, Bayyinah (Tajweed course), Parents

Bismillah,

“Oh Allah grant her Jannatul Firdous”. These are the words I spoke as I reflected upon my attempt at squeezing the life out of my mother i.e hug. Alhamdulilah, for having the ability to do this. In today’s bayyinah class we spoke heavily about parents. Subhana’Allah, first and foremost I ask Allah to forgive me if I ever encouraged anyone by way of my words or actions in disobeying their parents. As I memorize daily for the book of Allah (memorization rockin this break) and reflect on the many ayahs I think about what it means to do ihsan-have ihsan for one parents. Allah subhana wa tala refers to bir waladanee-obedience to parents six times in the Quran. Six times. Six times. This is for bani adam who tends to forget. Six whole times Allah refers to obedience, being good, doing ihsan to one parents six times, and never does Allah speak about this in the same manner as wives or children. Why? As mentioned before, birr waladanee is one of these acts in which Allah subhan wa tala has tied to His worship, this is hardcore-super hard. Subhana’Allah, when we think about how much a mother specifically goes through in carrying a child i.e the sickness, heartburn, the kicking-and the pain of child birth. And then all followed by the rearing of later years-the difficulty or the anxiety that comes of whether one is properly raising them in accordance to Allahs deen. And of the thought or pain that is felt when a child passes away even before it reaches the world, and of this the Prophet s.a.w. speaks of this unborn child in Jannah of how even though he/she is given a place in Jannah, it waits for their mother whom they’ve never seen, but they stay in place and wait all because of what?! Because it-he/she heard its mothers heart beat-vibration in the wound. Subhana’Allah! How can you make your relationship with your parents a better one, and thus gain the love of Ar-Rahman?!

*Disclaimer, mind me I am in no way an expert and I ask Allah to increase me in knowledge so as to better serve my parents.

1.) Language of Love/ i.e communication: When I was a freshmen in college-still green, I remember taking this class on marriage and families-one of those awesome human development courses, and one of the topics we talked about was how you should learn the ways-language of communication that your partner has. In a lot of ways, looking back at this concept, this really rings true for parents. A lot of parents, especially from different countries show respect/love/and basically communicate emotion in totally different ways. All in all-express your feelings, physically, emotionally.

2.) Differentiate between ill feelings and just bad days. Again this goes back to knowing ones parents temperament and gauging when its to keep away and when to approach.

3.) Dua! In every salaah, make dua and hope that Allah enters both your parents into Jannah and for Allah to place and grow love between you. Along side with the dua which is the best gift of all-give material gifts as well, and bithniAllah this will go a long way in creating love and showing ones caring side.

4.) Respect their wishes. Ask yourself if Jannah is one side, and you wanting to stick strongly to an opinion about a certain topic is more important. I speak to myself before anything else-if anything you want to pursue in the dunya goes against the disobedience of your parents-and is not specifically related to Aqeedah issue-then know its not worth the fight. Harvest and sow your roots for Jannah today.

5.) Spend time with them. There is nothing more beloved to a parent then a child hanging with their parents-regardless if one is 30. Even if they don’t say it, parents trust me dig it. If a friend asks you to go shopping or something along the lines and you know your mom is home alone, don’t be afraid to blow them off (politely) in saying that “dudette no, I am gonna go home and chill with my mom…because that is cool”.

Alhamdulilah, Bayyinah course was awesome tonight and I ask Allah to make me always of those who are in such a circle of khayr. Covered Rhythm-a.) bounce b.) ghunna c.) and lots of recitations. With tonight’s post, I leave with three powerful ayahs in which I’ve had the pleasure to memorize and some which I hope to memorize soon enough.

Wawassayna alinsana biwalidayhi husnan wain jahadaka litushrika bee ma laysa laka bihi AAilmun fala tutiAAhuma ilayya marjiAAukum faonabbiokum bima kuntum taAAmaloona

29:8 We have enjoined on man kindness to parents: but if they (either of them) strive (to force) thee to join with Me (in worship) anything of which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not. Ye have (all) to return to me, and I will tell you (the truth) of all that ye did.(Al-Ankabut)

Wawassayna alinsana biwalidayhi hamalathu ommuhu wahnan AAala wahnin wafisaluhu fee AAamayni ani oshkur lee waliwalidayka ilayya almaseeru

31:14 And We have enjoined on man (to be good) to his parents: in travail upon travail did his mother bear him, and in years twain was his weaning: (hear the command), “Show gratitude to Me and to thy parents: to Me is (thy final) Goal.(Luqman)

Wawassayna alinsana biwalidayhi ihsanan hamalathu ommuhu kurhan wawadaAAathu kurhan wahamluhu wafisaluhu thalathoona shahran hatta itha balagha ashuddahu wabalagha arbaAAeena sanatan qala rabbi awziAAnee an ashkura niAAmataka allatee anAAamta AAalayya waAAala walidayya waan aAAmala salihan tardahu waaslih lee fee thurriyyatee innee tubtu ilayka wainnee mina almuslimeena

46:15 We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents: In pain did his mother bear him, and in pain did she give him birth. The carrying of the (child) to his weaning is (a period of) thirty months. At length, when he reaches the age of full strength and attains forty years, he says, “O my Lord! Grant me that I may be grateful for Thy favour which Thou has bestowed upon me, and upon both my parents, and that I may work righteousness such as Thou mayest approve; and be gracious to me in my issue. Truly have I turned to Thee and truly do I bow (to Thee) in Islam.”   (Al-Ahqaf)

Till next time, see you all in bithniAllah on the other side; where the grass is green and rivers of honey and milk flow.

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