Journey to patience (Day 9)

Posted: May 26, 2008 in Great Women in Islam, Journey to patience


Alhamdulilah. It was one of those days, just back to my ole routine. Its so weired to just go back to way things were, so much kids running around, no prayers in jama3, just pure solitude. Labor day Monday. I did some lounging around, listened to Yahya Ibrahim’s lecture on (10 steps to Jannah) on youtube. I didn’t take notes but rather sat there and listened. I read my book on stories of Great Women again. Alhamdulilah, very cool stories. I recently read about the 6th wife of the Prophet s.a.w (Zainab bint Jahash), 7th wife (Juvriah bint Harith), and the 8th wife of the Prophet s.a.w who was (Safiyyah bint Huyayee). I am pretty much behind in my note taking and actually just took notes on Saudah bint Zam’ah r.a who was the 2nd wife of the Prophet s.a.w

Notes: Saudah bint Zam’ah r.a

~The first wife to enter the household of the Prophet s.a.w after the passing away of Khadija r.a was Saudah.

~She was married to her cousin, Sakran bin Amar, and then married to the Prophet s.a.w.

~She had children from previous marriage and so did the Prophet s.a.w. They were both lonely after the death of their spouses, and soon married to share the responsibility of raising their children.

~When Saudah bint Zam’ah r.a became old she feared that the Prophet s.a.w would divorce her and a settlement be made. Her desire was to be raised on the Day of Judgment with the other members of the Prophets wives. So she would entrust Aishah r.a the time allotted to her. It was at that point that Ayah of Surat An-Nisa was revealed to the Prophet

“And if a woman fears cruelty or desertion on her husband’s part, there is no sin on them both if they make terms of peace between themselves; and making peace is better.” (4:128

~Aishah r.a was very touched by her gesture and they became even closer than before. Her heart was so pure that it was totally free of jealousy or malice.

~Saudah r.a was a tall, healthy woman with a sense of humor. Ibn Sa’ad mentions how once she was offering voluntary night prayers, standing behind the Prophet s.a.w. The next morning she told him how his very long prayer made her fear her nasal vein would burst and her nose would bleed! So she said that while in the bowing position, she held on to her nose! This comical image that she presented of herself made the Prophet s.a.w burst into laughter.

~When Saudah r.a first heard about the Dajjal from the Prophet s.a.w she was terrified. Being the simple person that she was, it became a hobby for the others to talk about it and frighten her and then laugh at her. On one occasion Aishah r.a and the mother of the believers hafsa r.a started talking about it in front of her. She was so scared that she immediately ran into a dark room full of cobwebs to hide from the monster. When Muhammed s.a.w walked in he found the two enjoying the joke. He asked them what was so amusing, on being told what had happened he called out to Saudah to come out as there was no monster around. She came out sheepishly laughing at herself.

~On one occasion, the Prophet s.a.w, Aishah, and Saudah r.a were sitting together and chatting. The former cooked a special dish and offered it to the latter, but she declined. Aishah r.a was a lively young person, and threatened to force feed Saudah r.a . And when she continued to remain serious she actually splashed it all over her face! So this light hearted gaiety and spirit of camaraderie was very much part of the Prophet’s household. There was no malice and jealousy in the pure atmosphere. It was reflective of the pleasant ambiance in the household of the Prophet s.a.w where there was always a loving concern and affection for all.

~Saudah r.a was extremely generous

~There are five authentic Ahadeeth attributed to her, according to Imam Thahabi. Ex. hadeeth proving permissibility to use the skin of a dead animal, hadeeth of a man making hajj on the behalf of his father.

~Saudah lived to ripe old age of 80. She passed away during the Caliphate of Umar bin Khattab r.a and was buried in Jannatul Baqi.

Monday, May 26th

1.) Cap (10) Alhamdulilah

2.) Ttes(10)

3.) Quran 3 Surahs ( 10)

4.) Reading from the Prophets stories ibn Katheer/Great Women of Islam (10)

5.)Lectures, at least one a day( 10)

6.) Istigfar: asking for it 70 times a day or more (10)



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